The Bicycle Dress

Beautiful image of this model wearing the dress.. Doesn't she sell it well?!

Beautiful image of this model wearing the dress.. Doesn’t she sell it well?!

Have you ever come across a piece of clothing and just fell in love it with it? Like, actually have it show up in your dreams and keep thinking about it? For me, this is not typical. Like most women, I have a hard time choosing clothes I feel “reflect” my style and also fit me well.

But a few years ago, I came across this dress that just caught my eye. I saw it in a catalog and wanted it immediately! Maybe because the model looked so happy and relaxed, laying there on the beach in this adorable dress. Regardless, I loved the style and loved the print and really wanted it.
All of this is a bit out of character for me. I like clothes and style, don’t get me wrong. But, for some reason, this dress had an immediate impact on me and I couldn’t get it off my mind! I searched the web to find a better price, since I felt it was a little out of my budget for a “dress”. Then I dreamt about it. Then a week later I happened to be shopping with a friend nearby the store that sold the dress..

After some encouragement from my friend, I decided to try the dress on. I had the money in my pocket so I decided if it fits right, I’m pulling the trigger and buying it! When I put the dress on I discovered it had pockets! What?! Adorable and practical? Right up my alley! Needles to say, I purchased the dress and didn’t look back.

A few months later I saw Zooey Deschanel wearing the same dress on her television show. I’m a fan of her and her style so I thought that was pretty awesome. She’s always wearing cute clothes that I would be too afraid to wear in fear that I will be judged.

Zooey in the dress on her TV show.

Zooey in the dress on her TV show.

Well a lot has happened since I bought that dress! Some life changing events that gave me a different perspective on life, shook my self-confidence, and made me really think about who I am and what’s important.

So, with my confidence still needing some work and still holding on to the fear of being judged, a few weeks ago, I decided to wear the dress to an event I was attending by myself. (I know, brave right?!)

The person I was that day could care less if anyone didn’t like my dress! Because I LIKED IT!! I wasn’t wearing it for compliments or to get noticed. I was wearing it because it made me feel good, happy, and pretty.

That day I decided to let go of the self-doubt, let go of the fear of being judged, and just be me. How liberating — and gratifying! Who knew just being unapologetically you could feel so good!

As a boudoir photographer, I get the pleasure of helping other women with the letting go. When my client decides to rid herself of the self doubt and fear, and just enjoy being herself, it’s the most rewarding experience! It didn’t take me long to see the value in these sessions and want to offer it to all the women around me.

So my advice to you is the next time you are concerned about whether or not someone will like your style, let that shit go.. and just wear the damn dress!

Here I am with my son's new bike.. in my bicycle dress!

Here I am with my son’s new bike.. in my bicycle dress!

5 Most Common Reasons Women Put Off a Boudoir Session…Or Even Laugh At The Idea!

I’m glad to be finally be touching on this subject for a couple of reasons! For one, I get to inform women that their insecurities and setbacks can become the driving force and success of their shoot. For Two, I get to show that they are not alone and inform them on some common concerns most women have.

I truly believe that our experiences and influences make us who we are, therefore, there cannot be another you.. and there is beauty in that alone. We need to make it a priority to love and see ourselves for the wonderful women that we are. Here are the top 5 excuses women put off a boudoir session or disregard themselves as a candidate all together:

It's time to kick up your heels and have some fun! Celebrate YOU!

It’s time to kick up your heels and have some fun! Celebrate YOU!

  1. “I Need To Lose Weight First” — This is definitely number one so might as well get this out of the way. Most women are really concerned with not looking good in their photos, regardless of their size and weight. But self confidence, correct posing, and lighting is what really makes a photograph. Not 5 or 10 pounds. I believe each woman possesses a unique beauty that she can embrace and be proud of. And I believe she should capture that at least once in her life by having a photo session.

  3. “I’m Too __________” — Go ahead, fill in the blank. No matter what you will have said, it’s simply not true. And it’s talking down to yourself. I could have listed 10 excuses woman make, but I decided to knock off several with just this one! There is no age or weight limit, relationship requirement, or certain level of confidence needed. You can be a 65 year old woman wanting to celebrate feeling the best in her life, or a 35 year old woman wanting to reclaim her femininity after a breakup. Boudoir is about the woman. Her femininity. Her strength. And capturing that in her images. Think about what you would say to your friend if she were considering this memorable experience and apply that to yourself. This is where your self-love comes into play!

  5. “Sexy Lingerie And Garters Are Just Not My Style” — There is definitely a common visual most people get when they think of boudoir. It’s something usually including lingerie, and a woman on a bed. Boudoir shoots can be classy, funny, nerdy, sexy, retro, or vintage themed. Outfits range anywhere from lingerie and underwear, to t-shirt and jeans or a cozy oversized sweater. My point here is that if you saw a photograph of a woman on the beach looking confidently out at sea, she can look just as sexy as a woman laying on a bed in her underwear. The key is creating a custom shoot that fits the woman, her place in life, and is at her comfort level.

  7. “Everyone Will See My Pictures” — Absolutely not true. Any images posted on my website or social media sites were approved by the client. You have control over which images are available for viewing on the web, which images are only for in-house portfolio, and which images are off limits to others. I do all my own retouching and prints in-house, offering full privacy to my clients. All other products are ordered through reputable and professional labs.

  9. “I’m Awkward In Front Of The Camera And Don’t Feel Super Confident About Myself”
    –This is a big one- and not uncommon for anyone, really. And it’s not a problem.This is where my expertise comes in! The right photographer can take amazing photos of ANY woman no matter her shape or size. I coach each client throughout their entire photo shoot, taking the pressure off needing to know how to “look or act in front of the camera”.

When you consider the most common set backs and excuses, there is a pattern. Self doubt. When you book a boudoir shoot and start planning your session there is excitement and nerves. And when you show up and give it all you got, those nerves make you feel alive and sexy, and the bravery of it all gives you an empowered feeling that results in you having a successful shoot that leaves you more confident, alive, and amazing than you were prepared for!

And that is why I love boudoir photography. To be able to help someone with their self- confidence and show them a side of themselves they’ve never seen.

If you are interested in this amazing experience, please feel free to contact me! You will be happy you did!